Defriending…we don’t like to talk about it but it happens. I have looked for proper etiquette on the subject but there is really nothing out there. Defriending as I understand it, is when one deletes a friend off of their friend list on facebook, myspace, twitter, friendster, linkedin or any number of other SNS sites. It can be a bit dehumanizing if it is done without explanation.
I got defriended this week…it took me about 5 minutes to figure out who the culprit was…a friend of an ex friend. Keeping perspective I was a bit glad although, initial embarrassment did set in for a moment, however fleeting, it still stings.
Then it dawned on me…I have friends on Facebook that I invited to Facebook and for whom I am their only friend and they don‘t even use it to communicate with me, they insist on sending emails. The nerve. After doing some research into my friends list I noticed that I have one friend whom I’ve not heard from in literally a year…I checked her profile and she had not even looked into her Facebook account for quite some time. She was a colleague of mine in Japan for 6 months and then she moved back to Australia. We’ve been in touch once since then and that was when I first got on Facebook. I defriended her today, not out of spite but because her account is not active. I also defriended an ex boyfriend who got on facebook because I asked him to but never used it(I was his only friend). A bit pointless. I have both their email addresses and will be informing them of my decision. I don't want to come off like a bitch...although, right now it seems to be an exercise in futility.
I like Facebook because most of my friends are on the other side of the world…I don’t see them very often but I love them and I want to keep in touch. Friends are important and at times are an extension of your family. I have some friends on Facebook I know would not notice if I defriended them…at least it would take them a while to figure it out…out of the 767 friends they had yesterday they now have 766.
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